HOW TO ENJOY BEING SINGLE.

So we’ve looked at reasons why you are single , types of single people and why being single is better than being in a wrong relationship now we’re looking at how to enjoy being single. Not everyone feels comfortable with being single, most feel dejected and incomplete. There’s no need for you to be, being single is not a crime neither is it a sickness. Whether you are single by choice or single by circumstance, you can enjoy being single. You don’t have to see it as a bad thing, so what if your peers are already married? I know it’s not easy especially if you’ve reached the age for marriage and nothing is forthcoming and you feel nothing is working out for you. Be patient, good things take time. There’s no need for you to feel sad because you don’t have a partner. Your current situation isn’t your destination, remember that anytime you feel sad.

CHANGE YOUR MENTALITY: change your mindset, change how you view being single. Obviously you’d feel sad and hopeless if you have the mentality that you need a man to survive, you need to be married so that you can be noticed in the society and have a voice. Throw those beliefs out of the window. Change your mentality, believe you are whole on your own, that you don’t need any man to survive or complete you, believe that you have a voice in the society regardless of your marital status. Don’t dwell too much on the topic of marriage, yes you want to get married but don’t put yourself in depression because you are single. Change your mindset, that’s when you begin to see things in a new light. So instead of being single and sad, be single and happy. It’s not that hard, it’s just a change in mindset. For instance there are two women Rose and Kate, they’re both single. Rose believes she’s complete without a man and although she wants and needs one she’s not beating herself about it and then there’s Kate. She’s not fine with being single, she feels she can’t cope without a man and she’s not fulfilled until she has a man. It’s what you believe in that would hold you down so why don’t you hold on to uplifting beliefs and change your mindset and views on being single, once you do that, you’d begin to enjoy being single.

GET A HOBBY: hobbies are things you enjoy doing, find things you enjoy doing and have fun doing them. Whether it’s reading, drawing, cooking or singing, do it. Get something that keeps you occupied, something that will give you a sense of fulfilment and joy from doing. Take up hobbies that can even become a side hustle, you not only enjoy it but can also get paid and that’s killing two birds with one stone and it’s all to your benefit. So I recently took up blogging as a hobby and it has definitely helped in getting my mind off some things, it keeps me occupied and it just makes me happy and fulfilled knowing that someone is reading my work and the comments are always so lovely they make me happy. Find something to do that will make you happy and do it.

LOVE YOURSELF: I’m a big advocate for self love, love yourself and treat yourself to something. Spoil yourself, take good care of yourself, do things that make you happy. Treat yourself the way you want someone to treat you. Work on yourself, aim to be the best version of you. Love yourself the way you want to be loved. When you begin to practice good self care you’d feel good about yourself and just enjoy your being. The self love journey is continuous and it’s a lovely journey I’m sure you’d enjoy like I do.

LEARN ABOUT YOURSELF: now that you are single you have all the time to yourself, you spend time with yourself. Learn more about yourself, your likes and dislikes, your values and standards. It’s a period to discover things about yourself, things that you could share with people. Once you begin to learn about yourself and know who you are, you’d begin to enjoy your company more.

WORK ON YOURSELF: invest in yourself, in your job and career, you have all the time to now. Invest in your education, learn new skills, read books, work on being a better version of yourself that someone would want to have and keep. Be the person you want to be with. If I asked you if you could date you what would be your reply? If the answer is no, think about why you can’t date yourself and work on it. I’m taking this period to work on myself, I’m reading new books and learning new things, just take this time to work on being the person you want to be.

TRAVEL: go on that vacation, visit places you never have, go to that place you’ve always wanted to go. Just leave your normal scenery for a while, meet new people, experience new cultures, learn new languages, try out new foods, all these are exciting things to do while single, I’m sure you’d enjoy them. You could even make a vlog on places you’ve visited or start a travel blog. It will definitely bring up opportunities in the long run, just enjoy yourself.

GET BUSY: Do something, be productive. Try out new things, do something you’ve always wanted to do, start that new business, visit that place, start that blog, podcast, channel or business. Get busy doing something, you’d most likely enjoy it and get monetary value also. Learn new skills, meet new people, attend those parties, seminars and conferences. Do something, don’t just sit around and wallow in unhappiness, find and be your happiness. I’m keeping myself busy with this blog and it’s really amazing, I’ve met new people and it’s just nice because I’m being productive in my own little way.

ENGAGE: there’s this freedom that comes with being single, you’re not tied to anyone, you don’t have to seek for someone’s permission first to do something, there’s no compromise. All your decisions are made by you and for you. Feel free to do whatever you want to do as long as it’s not going to hurt you. Go out with friends, meet new people, hang out with your family. Take that trip, do that thing.

BE COMMITTED TO YOURSELF: be committed to yourself and your growth. Be committed to making yourself happy, it’s not anyone else job it’s yours. You don’t have to have someone to be happy. Be committed to showing up for yourself, to taking care of yourself, to loving yourself and investing in yourself. Know your value and raise your standards. Throw away negativity, avoid people that make fun of you or nag you because you are single. Be committed to protecting yourself from things and people that will hurt you. I’m currently in a committed relationship with myself and it’s really nice to be there for yourself and have your back.

HAVE FUN: what’s the thing you have the most fun from doing? Do that thing. Have fun, enjoy your single life. Leave your comfort zone, try out new things. Just have fun and do whatever makes you happy. Spend time with people that match your vibe, do things that are liberating and makes you feel good about yourself.

I hope you put the tips to use, you can actually enjoy being single. You’ll learn a lot from being single, you’d learn to fend for yourself and in turn take care of your future family.

Remember, you won’t be single forever so have fun at the same time you won’t be single forever so cheer up and just enjoy your time with yourself till your special person comes along and there’s a special someone for you so don’t go around thinking you don’t have anyone, he’s out there somewhere and you’re going to find him.

Thanks for reading, let me know how you spend time by yourself, things you enjoy doing now that you are single and how much you enjoy being single in the comment section and dont forget to follow so you won’t miss an update. Have a great day.