Hey loves, how has your week been? Today’s post is about dealing with insecurities. I’m writing this for everyone that feels they are not good enough or something about them is not good enough. Believe me when I say you are more than enough. Everyone has their flaws and insecurities, no one is perfect even celebrities have their insecurities so don’t beat yourself up about that thing about you that you don’t love, don’t focus too much on it and learn to love it or work on it.
First, I’d like you to ask yourself this question, what makes you feel insecure, what are you insecure about? Whatever comes to your mind is what we need to tackle but now let’s look at causes of your insecurities.
Criticism: have you been criticized in the past or bullied? Has someone made fun of your hair, your teeth, your skin colour, your weight? Someone constantly talking down on you, telling you negative things about yourself might cause you to accept it, believe it and fear to showcase it for fear of being laughed at or criticized. I’ve been laughed at because of my hair, my edges aren’t the best in the world and sometimes I’d even cry because of it especially when someone makes fun of it and the whole room thinks it’s a joke. It made me hide my hair for fear of being laughed at or criticized but now I’ve come to accept it. So criticism can make us feel insecure about ourselves that a certain part of us isn’t good enough.
Lack of self love: do you love yourself? Do you accept every part of you? If you don’t love yourself and accept yourself and own your flaws you’re likely to feel insecure. Do you hate your weight? The way you talk? The constant pimples on your face? Your never changing gap tooth? You need to accept them so you can feel secure with them.
Limiting beliefs: what limiting beliefs do you have that’s making you feel insecure about yourself? What do you tell yourself? What do you believe about yourself? Are you constantly telling yourself you’re not good enough, that you’re not deserving of happiness, that your body can never look good, that your skin will never be as good as you want? Let go of those limiting beliefs.
Negative self talk: what is the thing that you say to yourself? Are you speaking good about yourself or just focusing on the bad and ugly? Are you telling yourself that you can’t achieve anything, that you’d never get the job? Learn to say good things about yourself.
Personal flaw: is there something that is part of you that you don’t like, that you’re not happy about but you just can’t change? Having a personal flaw that you’re not comfortable with can make you feel insecure about it.
Rejection: are you insecure because you’ve been rejected? Rejection sucks and hurts I know. Rejection can make you feel insecure and fear doing some certain things. Were you rejected from that job and now you’re feeling that you’re not good enough for the job and you’re not certain that you want to face the same thing again? Rejection can make you fear taking up some particular tasks because you don’t think you’re good enough for it. Rejection can even make you question your self worth.
Social media: are you feeling insecure because of what you see on social media? The girl with the perfect feed, ever glowing skin, make up on fleek, perfect hair, lovely shoes and then it makes you feel insecure because you’re not like that and start comparing yourself to others?
HOW TO DEAL WITH YOUR INSECURITIES
Self love: LOVE YOURSELF, own your flaws, accept them, love every bit of yourself. Every part of you that you don’t like, love it. If you can’t love it then work to get rid of it if it will make you happy and confident .in yourself.
Have affirmations: have affirmations to kill your negative self talk, for everything that you are insecure about write them down and write down something positive for each of them. Speak good things about yourself. Don’t dwell on the negative focus on the positive. If you don’t like your gap tooth, look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that your gap tooth is amazing, it makes you unique, it makes you beautiful. Have positive affirmations to kill your negative self talk, don’t forget that.
Let go of criticism: let go of past criticism, let go of those harmful words that are engraved in your mind, don’t hold on to negative things about you that makes you think you can’t do anything or don’t know anything, erase them, wipe them away from your memory. Forgive the people that have said harmful things to you, don’t hold on to their words just let go, embrace the peace that comes from letting go.
Change your mindset: change your beliefs, change the way you see yourself, have a positive mindset shift. Don’t dwell in the past or focus on the things you can’t do or don’t have. Be positive, change your perspective, change the way you talk about yourself.
Work on it: work on the thing you’re insecure about. If you have pimples all over your face, work on getting rid of them if you’re not comfortable with it, change your skincare routine. Work on your weight if you don’t like it, take that exercise instead of always feeling insecure about your body, eat the right foods. If you’re not comfortable with where you are now then take yourself to where you want to be.
Don’t compare yourself to others: if you want to let go of your insecurities then don’t compare yourself to others, it only builds your insecurities. Don’t put yourself in situations that makes you compare yourself. Don’t do that, instead admire yourself and be happy with yourself.
I hope this has been able to help you in a way to take a step to deal with your insecurities. Don’t beat yourself up about them and don’t focus on them, love yourself and accept yourself. You are complete, you are amazing, you’re more than enough, you can achieve anything you set your mind to, you are more than enough.
Thanks for reading, let me know which insecurities you’ve had, what caused them and how you were able to deal with them.
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