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Hey loves, I hope you’ve all been doing well. So this past few weeks I found myself over thinking so that was what inspired this post. So I’m sharing things you could do to stop over thinking. I know no one likes overthinking but then sometimes we can’t help it. It’s okay to think about something before doing it but when you’re taking too long, thinking about the same thing over and over again, being indecisive on taking a decision or form of action then we have to curb it.

Overthinking can cause stress, cloud your judgement, make you anxious, makes it harder for you to enjoy your life, impact your emotions and disrupt your sleeping pattern. Seriously, over thinking does not do any positive thing to you. It just makes you stressed and anxious, I didn’t even feel like doing anything, everything seemed stressful, I couldn’t really sleep at night because my thoughts were keeping me awake. We all have some sort of problem, from time to time it’s okay to think about them but not concentrating on the problems but possible solutions.

Over thinking can take many forms, from being indecisive to reading into the smallest detail, worrying about your future or things you did wrong in your past or should have done, fear of the unknown and what the future holds. Whatever reason why you are overthinking, just breathe, let it go or take action.


BE AWARE: be aware of your thoughts, take note of what you’re thinking of, what makes you think of them, how do you feel when you’re over thinking? Be aware of your feelings, your emotions, the circumstances revolving around your thoughts. Be aware of when your thoughts slip from being positive or thinking good things to worrying about things. When I became aware it gave me some sort of control over it.

BE PRESENT: Live in the moment, be present, don’t live in the past or the future, live now, take each day as it comes, don’t go digging up the past or fast forwarding to the future. Be present, I know it’s easier said than done. Something could happen that could take you to the past and then you could start dwelling in them or something else happens and you’re suddenly worried about your future. Live in the now, not the past or the future. The past is done, you can’t go back and undo it, you just have to find things to do to make them better. Let your tomorrow take care of itself, live each day as it comes.

FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN CONTROL: focus on what you can control, some things are just out of our control so just leave it, focus on what you can control instead. You can’t control your past, so why do you still dwell on it? Focus on the things you can control, if it’s your job that’s making you worry focus on what you can do to ease your work load. Whatever it is that is making you worry, focus on the things you can control, if you keep on thinking about the things you can’t control it will just make you feel helpless and dejected and no one wants to feel that way especially when you can just make things easy for yourself and control the things in your control.

THINK POSITIVE: There is power in your words or thoughts, say affirmations if need be. Think positive thoughts , if you notice that your thoughts are entering the negative realm dive into the positive realm by being conscious of it, thinking positive thoughts, it could be something you are excited about or a good thing that happened to you recently, you could also say your affirmations on anxiety just distract yourself from the negative by the positive.

JOURNAL: write, write down what you’re feeling, write down what you’re worried about, write down possible solutions to your problems. Just write, writing things down really helps you, it helps you focus on what exactly you’re feeling, pour your emotions into writing believe me you’ll feel relieved afterwards. You can even crumble the paper or tear it into pieces after you’re done writing if it will make you feel better. Journaling helps you to be aware of your thoughts and emotions, it is something you should definitely try it out sometime.

LET GO OF YOUR PAST: If you are constantly thinking about your past let go of it. Don’t be a slave to your past, you no longer have any business with it, instead of looking back all the best, try looking forward. Thinking about what could have been, what you should have done, what you could have, none of that will give you what you want. No one can rewind to the past or travel to the past to change our actions, all we can do is to let go and move forward. Stop over thinking things, it will not do you any good or change anything.

MEDITATE: meditation can help you a whole lot. Just close your eyes and breathe. Relax, try letting go of your problems and just focus on your present, feel your surroundings, listen to soothing music and just relax.

LET GO OF YOUR FEAR: it’s usually because we are afraid of something that causes us to over think things. So letting go of your fear will go a long way in helping you to stop over thinking. Most times we fear the unknown, the things we have no control over and it makes us over think about what could be. Let go of those fears and stop pondering on them.

TAKE ACTION: If you’re over thinking everything, just take action. Instead of over thinking getting that job done take action and do it. Nobody is going to take action for you, over thinking only delays your action. Whatever thing it is that you’re over thinking about getting done, just do it. Getting it done will stop you from thinking too much about it and then you can accomplish what you want. So if you are over thinking getting that dress, going for the job interview, starting up your business, take action and do it.

GET BUSY: do something. If you find yourself thinking too much about something find something to do. Do something productive, read a book, watch a movie, listen to inspiring videos and podcast, check out quotes that could help, cook or do whatever thing it is you could do to get your mind off the things you are thinking about.

BE GRATEFUL: most times when I find myself over thinking things especially wondering what the future might bring or thinking of the things going on in my life right now I just stop and make a list of things I’m grateful for. It could be anything down to the smallest things, it could be because you have a good over your head, you have a job, you can eat and have food to eat, all parts of your body is functioning, you have life. Just pause and be grateful. When you do this, instead of thinking about all the bad things going on in your life, now you get to think of the good things that has happened to you. The good things that you have.

LISTEN TO MUSIC: it’s amazing what a good music can do. Sometimes when I’m feeling stressed or sad about something I’ve been over thinking about I just listen to music especially high beat music that I can dance to. There’s no way you would listen to music and you won’t move your body to the rythmn. Although I’m a terrible dancer, listening to music and dancing helps because then I get to laugh at myself and my poor dancing skills and in a way it makes me feel better or I could act like I’m a very popular singer and I’m having a concert and just sing my lungs out even if I don’t know most of the lyrics lol. Just find something to do that will make you pumped and you’ll feel happy doing.

TAKE IT EASY: slow things down. You’re not under any pressure to accomplish a certain thing by a certain age or to get things done by a particular time and even if you have a deadline, take things easy, don’t rush yourself. I currently have an assignment of six thousand words, the day I saw it I just started over thinking things, how was I going to write it, the deadline was too close, how do I start reading all the materials and I also feared failing the course too. And you can guess, over thinking didn’t get anything done, it didn’t get my assignment completed, it didn’t help me read my materials so just take things easy. Take things slow, I’m making an effort to at least write some words each day and read to a certain page and so far it has been going on well. 99% of the things we worry about don’t even happen so we need to stop worrying about them.

JUST STOP: one thing I’ve found myself doing is stopping my thoughts from going too far. When I notice that I’m over thinking something I usually just tell myself to stop. I say something like.

“Ok that’s enough, you’ve been thinking about this too much.”

“I’m not going to waste my time over thinking.”

“I’m not going to think of this.” After saying that I usually find something better to do and if I can’t, I sleep.

BE KIND TO YOURSELF: you deserve to have peace of mind, you deserve to live in the present, you deserve to stop worrying, sleep well and be happy so don’t sabotage that. Be kind to yourself, do yourself a favor and don’t stress yourself. If something is stressing you out, take a break, take a nap, take a vacation if need be. Enjoy yourself, don’t spend time thinking of things that you have no control of, stop over thinking the smallest details. You owe to yourself to be happy and have peace of mind.

So there you have it, 15 things to do when you find yourself over thinking things. I hope the tips will be of great help to you as it was to me and you finally stop over thinking things. Don’t be hard on yourself if you don’t immediately,it takes time. Be kind to yourself and take good care of your mental health.

Anxiety and depression aren’t a joke, if you need to seek professional help please do. Just make sure that you’re taking good care of yourself.

Thanks for reading, follow for more updates like this and if you don’t know, I post every Wednesday and Saturday’s. Like it if you found the tips helpful, pin it to read later, share to someone that needs it and comment below what makes you over think and what you do to make you stop over thinking. Check out my instagram for quotes on positivity and affirmations

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  1. Wowww. This is lovely. Thanks a lot. πŸ™‚

    1. Thanks for reading πŸ€—

  2. Thank you for sharing these tips with us!πŸ€—
    You have given us some great advice here. I think grounding ourselves and remembering what there is that we do have control of can put a lot of it into perspective. I try to write down or speak with friends when my brain is going into overdrive.

    1. Thanks for reading πŸ€—
      Yes, we need to know that we could over think something and still not have the power to change them. It’s nice that you write or speak to your friends when you’re going into overdrive, they can make you feel better.

    1. I’m glad you find it helpful πŸ€—

  3. A really great and comprehensive list of what you can do to stop yourself from overthinking. In particular, I like being aware of your thoughts as this has been a really game changer for me, although it has taken a lot of training to be able to do this.

    1. Yes, being aware of your thoughts is a big game changer πŸ’―

  4. Abundance of Flavor

    I love these tips. Gratitude is a big one for me. Like you said, being grateful changes your mindset and you begin looking at things differently

    1. Yes, gratitude helps us to look at things differently and appreciate them. Thanks for reading πŸ€—

  5. Letting go of the past and laughing at my mistakes have helped me stop over thinking. Thank you for this, it was a good read..

    1. Yeah, sometimes we just need to laugh at ourselves and let go. Thanks for reading πŸ˜ƒ

  6. Great advice – I’ve found the following acronym S.T.O.P. useful. Stop Take a breathe Observe Proceed. I use frequently throughout the day to bring me back to the peaceful present. Thanks for sharing your wisdom πŸ™

    1. Nice. Thanks for sharing your wisdom too. S.T.O.P is a nice acronym tooπŸ˜ƒ

  7. Needed to read this today. ❀ Thank you for sharing

    1. Thanks for reading. I’m glad you found it helpfulβ™₯️

  8. These are some good tips. I have had a lot of anxiety lately about my job, home and family. I found that writing, exercise, and meditation have helped me the most. You are right though, sometimes we just need to get out of our own heads.

    1. Yes we just need to sometimes. It’s nice that you use some of the tips already. Thanks for reading πŸ’―

  9. Journaling and staying busy are two of my favorite ways to be grateful for what I can do and write about the thoughts I have on the things I am still learning. πŸ™‚

    1. That’s lovely, sometimes we get carried away with our thoughts, journaling really helps

  10. Okay Nita . I see what you’re doing sis 😍😍😍😍keep up the good workπŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—so helpful!
    Looking forward to more from you

    1. Thank you πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

  11. Totally agree with all of these, especially focusing on the things you can control and listening to music! Thank you for sharing πŸ™‚

    1. Yes we should focus on what we can control and not stress too much about what we can’t.
      Thanks for reading .πŸ€—

  12. Nice post! It is better not to dwell too much on the WHYs or WHAT IFs. It helps to tell yourself, “You’re never get anywhere if you’re constantly thinking things through.” Haha! There are a lot of things to say about overthinking and, seriously, a lot of women suffer from this. Thanks for these!

    1. Yes, a lot of us over think things and it’s better not to dwell on them.

      1. Your 1st step is right.. one should be aware of what’s happening inside one’s mind first. Acknowledgement of the problem is the key.

        1. Yes. Knowing what the problem is helps you know the steps to take.

  13. These are great tips! I often find myself overthinking everything. Then I just have to take a step back and reflect on what is really bothering me. Like you said, you have to be self-aware and know yourself to see what is hiding behind the overthinking, from there you can do something about it.

    Sending good vibes from South Africa. Michelle (michellesclutterbox.com)

    1. Thank you 😊
      We have to be self aware first and do something about it.

  14. What I need most is to focus on what I can control. I tend to overthink about things I want to change and the points that I want to fight for. I always forget that there are things beyond my control (there’s actually a lot), and that sometimes it is better to let go of the what-ifs. Thank you for this!

    1. Yes. We need to focus on what we can control and we should not focus too much on things outside our control. Thanks for reading πŸ˜€

  15. Overthinking is one of my bad habits. Thank you for sharing your tips. I will try all these to stop myself from being overthinking.

    1. Thanks for reading, I hope the tips help.🀩

  16. Brilliant tips, thanks so much

    1. Thanks for the commentπŸ˜ƒ

  17. Thank you so much for these reminders! Overthinking is something I really struggle with and these are amazing tips. Remembering that my thoughts are just thoughts and not facts has been huge for me! Great post πŸ€—

    1. That’s a good thing to do. Thanks for reading πŸ˜ƒ

  18. Great article! Be kind to ourselves is very important, because sometimes with drag ourselves more than we take. And this cost us lots of bad things. Thank you for sharing this post, it’s very helpful.

    1. Yes, we need to be kind to ourselves and take care of ourselves. Thanks for reading , I’m glad you found it helpfulπŸ’―

  19. Listening to music is one of the most effective things for me to help get my brain back on track. Good article. I agree with Outing Therapy’s comment that replacing thoughts takes training and guidance – it is not a simple task.

    1. Yes, replacing our thoughts isn’t easy, it’s still something I struggle with sometimes but we always work things out.

  20. I am such an over-thinker!!! Loved this post, thanks so much for sharing your awesome tips.

    1. I’m glad you liked it. Thanks for reading πŸ˜€

  21. Hi Nianni. Some great suggestions there. I’m a big believer in the “Focus on what you can control” philosophy. Why worry about something that you have no influence over? Its pointless. Keep up the good work!

    1. Yeah, it’s really pointless. Thanks for reading πŸ€—

  22. Focusing on what you can control is so important to be honest! It’s helped me so much over the years and I’d always recommend it x

    1. Yes, it really helps you be at peace with yourself in a way.

  23. Such a great post. I definitely am one to overthink some things – other times I quickly make a decision. Thanks for providing some suggestions.

    1. Thanks for reading, I’m glad you were able to take something away. β™₯️

  24. I feel like we overthink things by nature. It is so important that we stay positive and try to focus on things that we want to control and is meaningful to us at the same time. Thanks for sharing!

    Nancy ✨ exquisitely.me

    1. Yes, we need to stay positive and try to control what we can. Thanks for reading πŸ€—

  25. Great post! I especially struggle with letting go of the past, this would help so much!

    1. Thanks. I’m glad you find it helpful β™₯️

  26. I am definitely someone who is a massive overthinker so anything that can stop me being anxious is a massive help. I agree that trying to not focus on what you can’t control definitely helps although it is definitely easier said than done!

    1. Yeah it is easier said than done but as long as we’re conscious of it, we can still do something about it.

  27. Amazing post! Thank you for sharing! I always tend to overthink things a lot so this is a very useful post!

    1. Thanks. I’m glad you found it useful 😊

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  29. 15 things to keep in mind when I falm into this bad habit. Thanks for sharing a great post.

    1. Thanks for reading, I’m happy you find it helpful πŸ€—

  30. These are also super helpful. Thank you for sharing, this is another post I can refer back to.

    Lauren | http://www.bournemouthgirl.com

  31. I know I need to do all of these things yet for some reason I don’t! Reading this has reminded me to just stop thinking about things too much – especially all the things I can’t control x

    1. Yes. It’ll be hard at first but in time you’ll get used to it. Some things are way beyond our control, we just have to accept it.

  32. These tips are super helpful! Thanks for sharing!

    1. I’m glad you find it super helpful 😊
      Thanks for reading. πŸ€—

  33. These were really great tips! Thanks so much for sharing πŸ’–

    1. Thanks for reading, I hope you find the tips useful πŸ€—

  34. These are all great tips! I’m very guilty about this because I am an overthinker too, but I try to help myself everytime I get anxiety over some things, and I’ve tried some on this list and it’s really helpful. Thanks for sharing these! πŸ’–

    1. Everyone over thinks at one point or another. You shouldn’t be hard on yourself. It’s good that you find the tips helpful and have tried some. Thanks for reading β™₯️

  35. I’m glad that I’m not type of person who overthinking πŸ™‚ When something bad happend I prefer to do something that make me forget about it, get busy or watching movies, so far it always work. Thank you so much for these great tips!

    1. It’s nice that you don’t over think things. πŸ’―

  36. journaling is a huge help for me! I’m such a major overthinker, and writing all my thoughts down, tends to calm my mind down a little. I’m definitely going to try some of the other things you suggested! Great post xx

    Melina | http://www.melinaelisa.com

    1. Yeah you should, I hope it helps you stop over thinking. Thanks for reading β™₯️

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  39. Thank you, this is just what I needed right now!

  40. Being grateful and listening to music a does help me. Thanks for this piece

    1. You’re welcome. I’m glad you found something that helps.

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  43. Overthinking used to be my middle name! Being mindful and present is something that was an absolute game changer for me. As well as focusing on small things you can control x

    1. That’s great. It’s nice to know you no longer overthink things.

  44. These are all great tips! Overthinking everything has been one of my main issues for so long, but positive talking, listening to music and writing have helped me so much. Getting busy and being present are tips that I will need to try too! Thanks for sharing x

    1. Thanks for reading. I hope it’s something you don’t really have to struggle with again.

  45. I’m sharing this with my husband. He’s the biggest over-thinker I’ve ever met. It gets to the point where I have to tell him to just make a decision already even over the littlest of things. Thanks for the great tips.

    1. Thanks for reading. I’m glad you like the tips and I hope it helps your husband.

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