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Hey loves, this year is about to come to an end and I decided to do a post on what 2020 has taught me. I believe we all learned a lesson or two from this year so my question is what did you learn?

This year is surely going to be unforgettable with all the events that happened, from covid-19 to EndSars , black lives matter and every other notable things that happened this year has felt like two years in one, we will surely have a lot to tell our kids and grandkids about this year. So let me tell you what I learned this year.

1. Self Love

One of the most important thing I’ve learned this year is to love myself. I’ve always felt like nobody loves me yada yada and when someone tells me they do I’ll just roll my eyes and scoff because I always wondered what the person loves about me because I really couldn’t see anything to love about myself.

This year I learned to love almost everything about myself, my weakness and my strengths and everything about me and it changed a lot of things for me. It changed how I view myself and how others view me. Along with loving myself I learned how to respect myself, take care of myself, show up for myself, forgive myself and just know that I am worthy of everything I desire and operate from a place of worth and value rather than insecurities, lack and worthlessness and this has made me hype myself rather than look and talk down on myself because that gave room for others to do the same but now there’s no room for that.

So in essence self love isn’t selfish, it is required. You owe it to you to love you not anyone else.

How To Love Yourself

2. Gratitude

I feel gratitude is a must. I’ve learned to be more grateful this year. A lot has happened this year and even if I didn’t get some things I wanted that doesn’t mean I should dismiss the other good things that happened. I am grateful for a lot of things this year and I’ll probably do a post on that soon. I’m just so grateful to be alive and that every member of my family is complete. I’m grateful for my friends and the amazing people I met/ discovered this year.

3. Things won’t always go as planned

Everyone had plans for how great 2020 will be for them and for some those plans were thrown out of the window. No one knew the world will be on lockdown, as crazy as it may seem I haven’t even heard the word quarantine before now. I know how almost everyone was saying I’ll do this in 2020, 2020 is going to be my year and four months into it we were speechless.

I had planned how by the end of this year I’ll have just two years remaining in University but guess what, I still have three years left and with the way it’s going in Nigeria only God knows when we’ll resume University, if it isn’t Corona it’s Asuu.

The point is that something will always come up that will ruin your plans so it’s always good to have a plan B, C or D.

4. Self Growth

If there’s one thing I’ve learnt it’s the importance of self growth and just being intentional to grow as a person and just invest in myself. It’s really important to Invest in yourself in any way you can, be it physically, financially, morally, educationally and any other thing that comes to mind. Investing in yourself isn’t doing anyone a favour especially if you’re paying for a book or course. Investing in yourself is for your own good. People will pay you for investing in yourself, you’re not doing anyone else a favour but yourself.

The other day I was calculating how I spent my money this year and although it was nothing grand I did spend a lot on courses and books normal me that would have used it to buy clothes and this is not saying I didn’t get any clothes though. I guess I just realized how important it is to invest in myself all round instead of just my physical appearance alone.

Don’t be scared to pay for that course or buy that book, you can change your life gradually through them.

5. Mind my business

I learned to mind my business more this year and just know that not everything matters or demands my attention. I used to be the girl that knew what and what that celebrity or influencer was up to but nowadays I know little to nothing. I’ve just chosen to not bother myself about petty things also and just drink water and mind my business knowing it doesn’t concern me.

Nobody’s business is my business, minding other people’s businesses will not do me any good so it’s important for me to focus on me. (This is a good affirmation for that)

6. Enjoy the small things and celebrate them

This just followed with me being more grateful this year. I’ve learned to enjoy and appreciate the little things more and celebrate them in my own little way by rewarding myself after accomplishing a task. It’s not until you accomplish that big thing that you should clap for yourself. Celebrate the process, before you get to level ten celebrate all the levels leading to it.

7. Embrace a new way of thinking

So this year, I had a change of thinking from having a fixed mindset to a growth mindset and that really changed things. I had to learn, relearn and unlearn a lot of things that has helped reconstruct my mindset for the best. I’ve also learned not to talk down on myself but instead use positive affirmations and they just help me feel better about myself.

8. To see the good no matter how bad it is

Yeah no one really expected things to turn out this way but it did and even if it has been a bad incident it gave me time to focus on myself, heal from some things, focus on my growth, start this blog, read more, learn a thing or two and just appreciate life more.

9. It’s okay to not be okay

It’s okay to not be okay. Nobody really feels positive all the time no matter what they want you to think. Everyone has days when they feel like they should be transferred to another universe or the earth should just swallow them. It’s okay not to have it all figured out. It’s okay not to be okay with the situations going on around you. It’s okay for you to cry if needs be, it’s okay for you to feel like giving up.

Even if you give up, make sure you look up because if you can look up, you can get up.

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10. Let Go And Breathe

It’s okay to slow down and not be in a haste. It’s okay to let go of any ship that is not favouring you. Stop carrying the weight of the world on your shoulder, let it go and breathe. Let go of toxic relationships and breathe. I’ve also learned to stop stressing too much especially over little things and just relax and breathe.

I’ve also learned to stop overthinking and just do and if I’m overthinking a past event to let it go and breathe because it’s not helping me in anyway.

Thanks for sticking with me and reading this post. I’ll love to hear from you, what are the things 2020 taught you and what did you discover about yourself this year?

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  1. Love this! I learned a lot of similar lessons this year but I also finally learnt that it’s okay to TAKE A BREAK! I needed a break so bad this year – and I’m glad I took my time to heal this year. I feel so much better now. πŸ™‚

    Minding your own business is a lesson that a lot of people need to learn! I hope 2021 is even better for you. <3

    1. That’s lovely. Taking a break and taking time to focus on you and heal is amazing. ❀️

      Yeah, we need to mind our business more and focus on ourselves rather than what the other person is up to.

      Thanks. I hope 2021 is even better for you as well πŸ€—

      1. Awesome points. This year shocked a whole lot of people, plans were changed abruptly and in the midst of the pandemic there was an awakening, and people protested on different issues all around the world. I really liked that.
        Forgiving and respecting one’s self is also crucial.
        On the side, I can remember that this year I also filtered the kind of information I was getting from Twitter influencers cos some of em fell my hand… LoL.
        Cheers on a much better 2021 Nianni!

  2. Love your post! I have definitely learnt to appreciate time more over the last year and also to take more time out for self care. It’s definitely been a struggling year for a lot of people.

    Emma | http://www.lifeofemmax.co.uk

    1. Thanks. It’s so important to put yourself first, take care of yourself and give yourself time.

  3. Love this post- your positivity is uplifting!

  4. Love this. I am trying to learn that it ok to take breaks and to love yourself more. Thank you for sharing this post.


    1. Thanks for reading πŸ€—
      It’s completely okay to take breaks and love yourself more. ❀️

  5. Wow you’ve learnt so much! I also feel like I’ve learnt a lot and most of that has come from being thrust into this terrible situation. I’ve defo learnt to be more confident in my abilities with my job!



    1. Yes, this situation has enabled us to learn a lot.

      That’s lovely. Being confident in your abilities is great.

  6. All very true. Enjoyed this post a lot. Thanks for sharing.

    1. Thanks for reading πŸ€—

  7. This is such an insightful post on what I think many of us learnt in 2020 during Pandemic. Thanks for sharing it.

    1. Thanks for reading πŸ€—
      Yeah this year taught us a lot.

  8. These are good life lessons. I also learned these things this year. Thank you for sharing.

    1. Thanks for reading. Yes they are good life lessons.

  9. Beautiful…

    I learnt a lot this year and still learning…

    …how to handle a business better
    …how to do new kitchen tricks with food
    …that not everyone in this world can be as honest as u see ur self
    …that this life is more about the hustle
    …also learnt the reason why youths don’t like working under people

    1. Nice. You seem to have learnt a lot this year. These are also valuable lessons.

  10. Great positive thoughts on a tough year. I have learned not to take things for granted and how to find new ways to stay in touch

    1. That’s good. Nothing is to be taken for granted and it’s always good to keep on touch.

      1. I’m glad that you used this year to create a new mindset and priorities which I’m sure will be helpful once things get back to normal. I think my biggest life lesson this year was patience. I learned not to rush and to take my time and do things right so that I can be proud of my accomplishments instead of seeing the flaws that came from rushing through a project or task. So I hope I can hold onto that mindset as well as the pace picks up in 2021. Happy New Year!

        1. That’s amazing. Being patient is still something I’m working on but I don’t think I’m there yet, sometimes I just want to get to my destination instantly or do that thing quickly and get done with it and get frustrated when it’s not going well. Any helpful tips?

          Thanks for reading, wishing you all the best in year 2021 πŸŽ‰πŸ€—

  11. Loved this post! It was this year in a nutshell basically! I love that even if this year was very challenging, I read that for loads of us brought some great lessons too! Thanks for sharing xx

    1. Yes, although this year was challenging we pulled through and that itself is something and we all learned something.

  12. These are some great lessons to come out of the craziness known as 2020. This is definitely going to be a year that will show up someday in the history books as people read about the year that COVID shut the world down lol! The biggest lesson that I’ve learned is that it’s okay to slow down and relax. I’m one of those people that is usually go, go, go. This year, with so many things cancelled, I was forced to take a step back and spend more time at home. What an eye opener! I realized that not only is that downtime relaxing, but it actually helps me to be more productive later when I AM getting to work on something.

    1. This year will definitely show up in history books and it really taught us all to slow down and relax.
      Cheers to a better year 2021 πŸŽ‰

  13. This is such a beautiful and positive post! This has really been a year of personal growth for many of us and your post really highlights this. Thanks for sharing.

    1. Thanks for reading. πŸ€—
      I agree with you that this has been a year of personal growth.

  14. It’s been a particularly painful year (aside from Covid-19, which was bad enough, my husband has been battling late-stage cancer the entire 12 months). It has been a huge test and it can be hard to find the positives sometimes — but, we’ve both learned how resilient we are and how much love we have that can get us through anything. I’m so grateful for that. Here’s to a better 2021 for everyone!

    1. Wow that’s a lot. I admire your strength and courage and hopefully it gets better.
      Here’s to a better 2021 for everyone πŸŽ‰

  15. I know I don’t really know you, but I am proud of you! Learning to love yourself is an amazing accomplishment! One I myself am still working on. I’m so happy for you!πŸ’–

    1. Thank you so much πŸ’•
      I hope you get to the point where you completely love and accept yourself. πŸ€—
      Wishing you all the best. πŸ’―

  16. Uplifting post. I find practising gratitude helps me to be more positive. πŸ˜€

    1. Thanks.
      Yes practicing gratitude helps us remain positive

  17. Amazing post! These are great lessons! I think we could all learn a lot from them. Self-love is in my opinion the most important. Without self-love all the other things you learned wouldn’t have been possible. Thanks for sharing your experience!

    1. Thanks for reading
      We’ve all learned a lot and learning to love ourselves is one of the greatest.

  18. This is great. Love a look back on how far we’ve come!

    1. Yes we’ve come a long way this year.
      Thanks for reading πŸ€—

  19. This is such a great post, I think we are all walking away from 2020 gladly but also having learnt an awful lot. I know I have learnt to appreciate things on a whole other level x

    1. Yes, this year taught us a lot. Yes expressing gratitude is something I really took seriously this year.
      Cheers to a better year 2021 πŸŽ‰

  20. I can definitely relate to all of these things! Has been such a great year for personal development, despite life not being what we all thought it would be.

    Chelle| http://www.chellebelle2016.blogspot.com

    1. I definitely agree with you on that. The lockdown gave us time to focus on developing ourselves more.

  21. Love this post! Self love and gratitude are so so important. Here’s to 2021 πŸ˜€

    1. Yes they are so important.

      Cheers to a better 2021 πŸŽ‰

  22. This is a really lovely post! I think many people are learning to go by what is going on around them, trust their guts, and not get too bent out of shape when things do not go as planned. Self-love is also so important; we have to look out for ourselves too!

    1. Yes, self love is extremely important. Learning to not be hard on ourselves when things don’t go as planned is a good thing to learn.

  23. This is a beautiful set of lessons. I think mostly I have learned this year that I am very capable and resilient. I’ve learned to express myself more, so that I can help others deal with things. I’ve also learned that we all die, and that it sucks.

    1. Yeah, death seems scary. Those are really nice lessons you’ve learned this year. Being able to express yourself more and help others deal with things is really good.

      Cheers to a better year in 2021 πŸŽ‰

  24. This is such a beautiful post! I must say I agree and have definitely learned many of these things in which you have mentioned. The 2 most are gratitude and understanding that things do no go as planned in life.

    So much has happened this year for me and it has changed my view, forced me to grow even more, and put so many things in perspective for me!

    Thanks so much for sharing.

    1. Thanks for reading.

      Being grateful and knowing that life is unpredictable was a big lesson this year.

      That’s great, personal growth is highly important.

  25. It has been quite the year indeed – I also learned a lot and most of all that I am not afraid to die as long as my loved ones are ok πŸ™‚

    1. Wow, that’s good. πŸ’―

  26. Self-love is a fantastic way to look out for ourselves in 2021- and it’s definitely something that I’ve learned to hone over the past awful months! Thank you for sharing, I hope 2021 is a better year than 2020 x

    1. Yes, self love is fantastic. Thanks for reading. Cheers to a better 2021 πŸŽ‰

  27. Lovely post – I definitely agree with enjoying the small things more, this year has made me more grateful for what and who is around me. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas x

    Sophie | https://www.loveandliterature.co.uk

    1. Yes, expressing gratitude and being grateful is really nice. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas as well. πŸŽ‰

  28. Mind My Business-Great advice! I canceled cable TV at the beginning of 2020 and it worked out great. I used to think that I needed to be informed all the time. It turns out being uninformed works much better for me!

    1. Yes, TV and social media can be a very big distraction if not utilized properly and sometimes ignorance can be bliss.

  29. So many awesome lessons there and a big YES to so many of them! I’ve learned quite a lot this year too. May we always keep growing and learning!

    1. Yes, may we always grow.
      Merry Christmas πŸŽ‰

  30. Love this! I think I really learned to enjoy the small things indeed and that plans can fall through sometimes, and that’s okay. It was really valuable. Great post 😁

    1. Thanks for reading πŸ€—
      Yes it’s really valuable. πŸ’―

  31. These are great lessons! Sometimes, people don’t want to be helped so we must respect that as well. Things don’t always go as planned so it’s better to be prepared and resilient! So insightful. Thank you for sharing this.


    1. Thanks for reading. Properly preparing for something is good and being resilient before getting it is even better.

      Happy holidays ❣️

  32. I am glad that you have started taking self-love seriously, and you are right on point, it’s not selfish at all. Respecting ourselves and accepting our strengths and shortcomings makes us a wonderful person in the end. I am sorry that it takes longer for you to finish University, but your positive approach towards each and everything that happened in your life this year is incredible. Wish you all the best next year!

    1. Thank you πŸ€—

      I hope the next year favours us all and things are even better than they are now.

      Happy holidays ❣️
      Wishing you a wonderful 2021 πŸŽ‰

  33. Every single point is bang on especially in these crazy covid times. Thanks for the reminders and for sharing these important lessons!

    1. Thanks for taking your time to go through them. Happy holidays πŸŽ„

  34. Completely agree with everything you said. Definitely going to try and practice more self-love in 2021.

    Tash – A Girl with a View

    1. That will be lovely. Happy holidays ❣️

  35. Wow, this is awesome! It’s inspirational!! You are so right about all of it. Self love really is required – and how wonderful that you conquered that mountain this year. It’s a hard one. And words – what we tell ourselves, is so powerful, so positive affirmations, in your own words, can really help. Love what you say about celebrating and enjoying the small things, too!

    1. Thanks for the lovely comments. All the lessons are really important.

      Happy holidays ❣️

  36. these are all good lessons you have here! I definitely can relate with learning to let go and breathe. Hopefully we’ll have a better 2021.


  37. Loved this! Great lessons for new beginning. Thanks for sharing

    1. Thanks for reading
      Happy New Year πŸŽ‰

  38. Great post! 2020 was definitely a memorable year. Hopefully 2021 brings in some much needed good energy and am end to this pandemic.
    Happy New aww Year Nianni.

    1. Yes it was really memorable. Hopefully the pandemic ends soon .
      Happy New Year Yinda, wishing you all the best. πŸ€—

      How have you been?

      1. Hopefully!
        Thanks Nianni. I’ve been quite well, thank you. I hope you’re good too.

        1. Yes I am. Looking forward to reading your blog posts.

  39. Great post, I too have learnt a lot about gratitude and self love this year! All the best for 2021 x

    1. Thanks. All the best.
      Happy New Year πŸŽ‰

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