Hey loves, this year is about to come to an end and I decided to do a post on what 2020 has taught me. I believe we all learned a lesson or two from this year so my question is what did you learn?
This year is surely going to be unforgettable with all the events that happened, from covid-19 to EndSars , black lives matter and every other notable things that happened this year has felt like two years in one, we will surely have a lot to tell our kids and grandkids about this year. So let me tell you what I learned this year.
1. Self Love
One of the most important thing I’ve learned this year is to love myself. I’ve always felt like nobody loves me yada yada and when someone tells me they do I’ll just roll my eyes and scoff because I always wondered what the person loves about me because I really couldn’t see anything to love about myself.
This year I learned to love almost everything about myself, my weakness and my strengths and everything about me and it changed a lot of things for me. It changed how I view myself and how others view me. Along with loving myself I learned how to respect myself, take care of myself, show up for myself, forgive myself and just know that I am worthy of everything I desire and operate from a place of worth and value rather than insecurities, lack and worthlessness and this has made me hype myself rather than look and talk down on myself because that gave room for others to do the same but now there’s no room for that.
So in essence self love isn’t selfish, it is required. You owe it to you to love you not anyone else.
I feel gratitude is a must. I’ve learned to be more grateful this year. A lot has happened this year and even if I didn’t get some things I wanted that doesn’t mean I should dismiss the other good things that happened. I am grateful for a lot of things this year and I’ll probably do a post on that soon. I’m just so grateful to be alive and that every member of my family is complete. I’m grateful for my friends and the amazing people I met/ discovered this year.
3. Things won’t always go as planned
Everyone had plans for how great 2020 will be for them and for some those plans were thrown out of the window. No one knew the world will be on lockdown, as crazy as it may seem I haven’t even heard the word quarantine before now. I know how almost everyone was saying I’ll do this in 2020, 2020 is going to be my year and four months into it we were speechless.
I had planned how by the end of this year I’ll have just two years remaining in University but guess what, I still have three years left and with the way it’s going in Nigeria only God knows when we’ll resume University, if it isn’t Corona it’s Asuu.
The point is that something will always come up that will ruin your plans so it’s always good to have a plan B, C or D.
4. Self Growth
If there’s one thing I’ve learnt it’s the importance of self growth and just being intentional to grow as a person and just invest in myself. It’s really important to Invest in yourself in any way you can, be it physically, financially, morally, educationally and any other thing that comes to mind. Investing in yourself isn’t doing anyone a favour especially if you’re paying for a book or course. Investing in yourself is for your own good. People will pay you for investing in yourself, you’re not doing anyone else a favour but yourself.
The other day I was calculating how I spent my money this year and although it was nothing grand I did spend a lot on courses and books normal me that would have used it to buy clothes and this is not saying I didn’t get any clothes though. I guess I just realized how important it is to invest in myself all round instead of just my physical appearance alone.
Don’t be scared to pay for that course or buy that book, you can change your life gradually through them.
5. Mind my business
I learned to mind my business more this year and just know that not everything matters or demands my attention. I used to be the girl that knew what and what that celebrity or influencer was up to but nowadays I know little to nothing. I’ve just chosen to not bother myself about petty things also and just drink water and mind my business knowing it doesn’t concern me.
Nobody’s business is my business, minding other people’s businesses will not do me any good so it’s important for me to focus on me. (This is a good affirmation for that)
6. Enjoy the small things and celebrate them
This just followed with me being more grateful this year. I’ve learned to enjoy and appreciate the little things more and celebrate them in my own little way by rewarding myself after accomplishing a task. It’s not until you accomplish that big thing that you should clap for yourself. Celebrate the process, before you get to level ten celebrate all the levels leading to it.
7. Embrace a new way of thinking
So this year, I had a change of thinking from having a fixed mindset to a growth mindset and that really changed things. I had to learn, relearn and unlearn a lot of things that has helped reconstruct my mindset for the best. I’ve also learned not to talk down on myself but instead use positive affirmations and they just help me feel better about myself.
8. To see the good no matter how bad it is
Yeah no one really expected things to turn out this way but it did and even if it has been a bad incident it gave me time to focus on myself, heal from some things, focus on my growth, start this blog, read more, learn a thing or two and just appreciate life more.
9. It’s okay to not be okay
It’s okay to not be okay. Nobody really feels positive all the time no matter what they want you to think. Everyone has days when they feel like they should be transferred to another universe or the earth should just swallow them. It’s okay not to have it all figured out. It’s okay not to be okay with the situations going on around you. It’s okay for you to cry if needs be, it’s okay for you to feel like giving up.
Even if you give up, make sure you look up because if you can look up, you can get up.
10. Let Go And Breathe
It’s okay to slow down and not be in a haste. It’s okay to let go of any ship that is not favouring you. Stop carrying the weight of the world on your shoulder, let it go and breathe. Let go of toxic relationships and breathe. I’ve also learned to stop stressing too much especially over little things and just relax and breathe.
I’ve also learned to stop overthinking and just do and if I’m overthinking a past event to let it go and breathe because it’s not helping me in anyway.
Thanks for sticking with me and reading this post. I’ll love to hear from you, what are the things 2020 taught you and what did you discover about yourself this year?
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