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Hey loves, how is the month going for you? Today’s post is on how to cultivate good habits and stick to them. It’s a new year and I know many of us wants to do away with bad habits and develop new good habits and this post will definitely help you out so continue reading.

We all have one form of bad habit or another, mine is biting my nails when I’m bored or just lost in thoughts, it’s not something I do often now but for the longest time it has always been a bad habit and my mum always beat my hands out of my mouth when she catches me so I quickly learnt to do away with it.

What’s one habit that you will love to drop this year?

What Is Habit?

Speaking of habits, habit is an action performed repeatedly and automatically, usually without awareness. You form your habits by doing something continuously until it becomes automatic.

How To Develop Good Habits

I know most of us see developing or breaking habits to be hard but we can always make it easy by just starting and starting small.

1. Identify the habit you intend to develop

You can’t just want to develop good habits. Which good habits do you want to develop? You have to be specific on the type of habits you want to develop and know what you will need to do to develop it.

2. Change your mindset

If you believe that the habit is difficult to cultivate and that you can’t keep up with it then you most likely wouldn’t. Change your mindset, embrace positive thoughts concerning the habits. See it as something easy, attractive and satisfying not difficult, unsatisfying and dull.

3. Know the actions to take

You need to know the actions to take that will enable you to develop the habit and the ones not to take. You have to take deliberate action continuously so you can master the habit. The most practical way to change who you are is to change what you do. Action delivers outcome.

4. Start small

Don’t just jump to the finish line without taking the necessary steps to get to it. Start small, take baby steps, make the habits easy for you.

If you want to develop a reading habit and for someone that doesn’t even like opening a book to read but then you hope to read 150 pages a day or read a book everyday it’s going to be a difficult thing for you to do because you already find just opening the book tasking. One of the first thing to do is make it obvious, by keeping the book where you can see it. The next thing to do will be to actually open the book, after that it could be to start with at least 10 pages which is you making it easy and when you make it easy you’ll eventually like it and find it attractive and satisfying. By the time you start and continue small then you’ll gradually progress to reading more pages each day.

Changes that seem small and unimportant at first will compound into remarkable results if you are willing to stick to them.

5. Build a routine

You need to make your habit a routine by constantly taking actions daily. A lot of people have morning and evening routines and these are habits that they’ve developed over time that it has become a routine or daily ritual that they can’t do without because they are already committed to it. So you don’t just have to be consistent, you have to be committed. The key to start a new habit or cultivate one is repetition not perfection.

6. Know what’s holding you back

Eliminate every negative thoughts and every obstacle that you know will stand in your way of cultivating the habit. If you are trying to quit smoking don’t hang around your friends that smokes. Know your triggers and stay away from them. If you are trying to cultivate a new habit stay away from distractions that won’t make you achieve them. If you want to try out meditating you should stay away from noise because you know it will distract you. Know what’s holding you back and avoid or eliminate it.

7. Show up

Show up, don’t do one day on and three days off. The more you show up the more you develop the habit, the less you show up the more difficult it is to develop the habit. Learn to show up daily, you might not even get a lot done but just show up. Doing this repeatedly gives you the confidence that you can do it but if you don’t show up you’ll most likely start thinking you are not good enough and can’t get things done so it’s important you show up daily and do something no matter how small.

8. Visualization and affirmations

Your habits shape your identity and your identity shapes your habits. Visualize your new identity with that habit you are trying to develop. If you are trying to stop drinking and want to become sober see yourself as one first and tell yourself that you are one by saying affirmations. You can’t be what you can’t see, you are what you imagine. Imagine yourself as who you want to be and see yourself doing it and also affirm that you are that thing.

9. Accountability partner

Have an accountability partner or someone who can encourage you to become the person you want to become and also help you develop the habits you want to develop. Accountability partners are very helpful and really needed if you are trying to make or break a habit. When you surround yourself with people who have the habits you want to have, you’ll rise together.

10. Focus on what you are getting not what you are giving up.

Most times when you want to get something you have to give up another. If you are trying to quit drinking for example, focus on the fact that you are going to be sober, the benefits and how it makes you a better person and don’t focus on what you stand to miss like Friday nights with the guys and the other things that might not be beneficial to you. Focus on the reward and not the loss. That said, have a reward system. What are you going to give yourself for a job well done, how will you pay yourself? It should be something that you really want and excited to have so that way you won’t feel like you are loosing anything but actually getting something.

That’s it on how to develop good habits. What habits will you love to develop and what bad habit will you love to eliminate?

Let me know in the comments section below, don’t forget to like, follow, comment and share if you find it helpful.

Have a great week 🤗

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85 Comments

  1. Great post! I completely agree with your list. I’ve cultivated a habit of exercising 6 days a week, which was hard at the beginning but now it’s just a thing I do. It’s important to do a little every day – consistency is key.

    All the best, Michelle (michellesclutterbox.com)

    1. Yes consistency is key and the little things lead up to the big things.

    2. Consistent is my word of the year for this exact reason. If you do it every day then it becomes a habit but you have to be consistent!

  2. I want to read more self-help books this year, by more I mean two books per month. I’m actually about to finish one and I’ve already ordered another one. I’m so excited!!

    Bad habit I want to break is using my phone in bed.

    Loved how detailed the article is by the way. It pushes overwhelm about building new habits out the window.

    1. It’s a good thing that you want to read more self help books this year. I’m currently on my second book. I’m hoping to read 3/4 a month.

      Lol, I always use my phone on my bed and hardly ever leave the room but I don’t see it as a bad habit because I tend to get distracted.

      Thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed the post. 🤗

  3. These are some great tips!! I think the hardest thing for me is to start small. Often I want to just jump in and do it. 🙂

    1. Thanks. You should learn to just start small 😉

  4. Some great advice here! I especially like the point about starting small! I’m guilty of trying to make radical changes all at once and then being disheartened when I fail! Gotta remember to start small and that baby steps will still get you where you want to go! xx

    1. Yes, baby steps will still get you there, what matters is that you are moving forward and not backwards.

  5. I so agree with having the right mindset going into creating new habits! It’s so important to believe that change is possible. One of the habits I’m wanting to do more of this year is write, so I’ll be keeping these tips in mind 🙂

    1. That’s great. I wish you success with your habits and goals. 😀

  6. This is such a useful post! I think being consistent is where I fall down as I stick to it for a few days then take a few off and eventually lose the motivation to start again so I need to work on that.

    Tash – A Girl with a View

    1. Consistency is key but it’s where a lot of us struggle. Hopefully we get to be more consistent this year.

  7. Another great post. Consistency is my real downfall. I’ll do all of the hard work and get myself into great habbits and then something will happen and I’ll stop it all!

    Rosie

    1. Oh! I understand how that feels. Don’t beat yourself up about it, if it’s something you really want to do you can keep on trying.

  8. Great post. You’ve included so many helpful tips. I agree creating a routine can really help when creating good habits.

    1. Yes. Creating a routine really helps. Thanks for reading 🤗

  9. I’m going to use these to get back into working out on a regular basis. I quit while moving and it’s crazy how fast you forget to get back into your routine.

    1. Yes, it’s crazy how we forget to get back into our routine af

    2. Yes it’s crazy how fast we forget to get back into our routine after missing a day or two.

  10. Wow. It was nice.
    But to start small. Hau!
    😏😏

    1. Lol. What’s wrong with that?

  11. Building a routine is so important! I’ve built some amazing good habits lately and it works wonders for me!

    Love, Amie ❤The Curvaceous Vegan

    1. That’s great. Thanks for reading. Have a great day 🤗

  12. I love this post! I think so many of us talk ourselves into thinking we can’t create new habits and that ends up being one of our biggest obstacles. We have to change our mindset.
    Thanks for sharing these great tips for building new habits!

    1. Thanks for reading 🤗
      I’m glad you enjoyed the post. Building habits doesn’t have to be difficult, we can always make it easy for ourselves.

  13. These are such great tips and definitely ones I need to adhere to. I have so many habits I’d like to work on building that would benefit me in my personal life and career. I appreciate your insight!

    1. Thank you, I hope you get to work on them soon. Wishing you all the best. ❤️

  14. These are fantastic tips. Starting a new habit doesn’t have to be hard if you put in a bit of work. I like the point of starting small as that will help build up that habit and make it more manageable at the beginning. Having an accountability partner is also crucial if you want to succeed as they can give you that extra push and motivation when you are feeling like you want to give up.

    1. Yes starting small and having an accountability partner is a great boost. Thanks for reading. 🤗

  15. Great post! I started working on habits and routines this year, and so far i’m doing good! Skipped a few days because of my mental health, but over it’s great!

    “Focus on what you are getting not what you are giving up” that point just helped me be even more motivated!

    And yes starting small definitely help. One of the habits i wanted to pick up for this year was reading more. So instead of starting with 250 pages a day, i just started with two and gonne work from there.

    Thank you for sharing these! i hope you have a great day 🙂

    1. It’s good to know that you’re doing well with your habits. That’s wonderful.

      I’m glad you found it motivating 🤗

      It’s a good thing you broke down the pages of the book into smaller portions instead of starting with 250 pages a day at once with time you will grow to meet the target

      Thank you for reading, I appreciate the comment. Have a great day as well. 🤗

  16. Starting small and building up routine is a massive help.

    The problem people experience with new year resolutions for example is they suddenly decide to do the habit 5 days a week for two hours and burn out in weeks.

    Sometimes doing 10 minutes 3 days a week and building up is more effective!

    1. Yes, I totally agree with you on this. It’s so important to start small and make it easy while starting. Thanks for reading and following 🤗

  17. I want to start doing yoga, so I definitely will take your advice about being intentional in getting started!

    1. That’s great, make it a conscious effort to start each day even if it’s for just a minute or two.

  18. This is such a great post full of usefuls tips! Starting small is so important and even recognising yourself that you’re doing progress! It takes some time, but is so satisfying when you make it a habit. Thanks for sharing x

    1. Yes it is. Starting small and making it easy and also finding it satisfying will be really helpful in maintaining the habit. Thanks for reading. 🤗

  19. Good tips! I like the last one the most. When you set a goal, focus on it. Don’t think of giving up.

    1. Thank you. I’m glad you enjoyed it. 🤗

  20. Starting small is the best advice! Great post with lots of ways to “improve” on our habits.

    1. Thanks. Have a great day 🤗

  21. Love this post! Starting small is definitely the best thing for making something stick. A routine always helps too. Really great tips 🙂

    Caroline | https://envirolineblog.com/

    1. Thank you. I’m glad you like them. 🤗

  22. I’m currently working on changing my mindset. Thanks for the tips!

    1. That’s great. Wishing you all the best 🤗

  23. prettyroundedcheyenne

    Great tips! Changing and building habits can seem overwhelming at first, but all it takes is some consistency to get there.

    1. Yes, well said. Thanks for reading. 🤗

  24. I love how you’ve organized all this information as it makes it so easy to access and not feel overwhelmed with thinking about making these changes. I’m really working on some healthier habits for this year so this has been so helpful!

    1. I’m glad you found it helpful. Wishing you success in your habits.

  25. This is very helpful. Some people get disappointed or lose motivation due to thinking its a big but we can start small like you said. Thank you for sharing!

    1. Thanks for reading. It’s always important to start small. 💯

  26. Very useful post on how to build better habits you can stick to. You’re right, mindset is very important when it comes to developing new habits! Thanks for sharing 🙂

    1. Thanks for reading, I’m glad you found it useful. 🙃

  27. I love the “show up” one! Seriously sometimes people forget this step!!!

    1. Yeah it’s often forgotten. Thanks for reading. 🤗

  28. SUCH a great post! I really do believe that routine is key too! Love these tips so much! Gx

    1. Thank you, I’m glad you love them. 🤗

  29. Great tips!! Having an accountability partner definitely helps!

    1. Yes it really helps. Thanks for reading. 🤗

  30. Motso Lifestyle Blog

    Thank you so much for the amazing post. It was very insigjtful especially number 8. I’m definetly going to try using more affirmations.
    The habit I would like to stop for 2021 is overthinking and not trusting myself with my blogging. I really wanna work on that

    1. I think your blog is really nice, I have a post on overthinking and affirmations as well that could help. Thanks for reading. ❤️

  31. Great read! I especially agree with starting small, & that’s something I’ve begun implicating in my own life. I tend to dream big so baby steps are difficult for me, as I’m always eager to rush to fill the shoes of my dream, so it’s been testing for me. Thank you for this article! ♡

    1. I’m glad you found it useful. It’s okay to start small, you’re still going to get to your destination and achieve your dreams. Take it one step at a time.

      Thanks for reading, I’m glad you enjoyed the post. Have a great day 🤗

  32. Yes, starting small is such a good one! feels less overwhelming!
    great post!

    1. Yes, starting small makes it easier. Thanks for reading. ❤️

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  34. This is great advice. Starting small and being consistent is definitely the key. I’m totally out of my exercise routine thanks to covid cancelling my classes. So I’m trying to develop the habit of working out more at home. Visualisation has definitely helped with it too! X

    1. That’s great. Wishing you all the best in the habits you want to develop. Thanks for reading. 🤗

  35. Great tips here! Changing habits always seems way easier than it actually is, so these tips and especially the small steps will help a lot. It’s something to really dedicate yourself to!

    1. Yes they are. Thanks for reading. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. Have a great weekend 🤗

  36. Someone recently told me I am getting angry easily. Glad I landed on this post, will now try your strategies to remain calm

    1. Thanks for reading. I hope it helps. How are you doing?

  37. I love this list. What’s crazy is that people are already doing a lot of these things for negative habits in their life. They are happy to wallow in their unhappiness but unwilling to take any action to change things.

    1. Yes, it sad that happens. I just hope they take a positive turn this year.

      Thanks for reading. 🤗

  38. Great post, I love the list. I need ways to stay calm these days
    Thanks for sharing
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    1. Thanks for reading. Have a great day 🤗

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  40. Thank you for sharing this post, I thoroughly enjoyed reading this. It’s a great way to dedicate to yourself and this is definitely the year for good habits and building the best of ourselves. x
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    1. Yes it is. We’re moving to greater heights this year and stepping up to become the best version of ourselves 💛

  41. Forming something into a habit is one of the best ways to make something stick! I love your step-by-step suggestions to help make something part of our lifestyle, especially your words on starting small and focusing on what we are getting, not giving up. 🙂

    1. Thank you. Yes, habits are what makes up our routine.

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