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Hey loves, today’s post is all about how to deal with feeling lonely on Valentine’s day. So Valentine’s day is in four days and while some people are looking forward to the day others are dreading it. So this post is going to cover how to be happy being single on Valentine’s day and also how to cope if you are feeling sad on Valentine’s day.

How to deal with being single and sad on Valentine’s day

1. Change your mindset towards being single

Your mindset is everything. I know it’s still going to be hard with seeing all the lovey-dovey things on Valentine’s day even if you are in a good headspace about being single but at least it will be better for you. On the other hand, if someone sees being single as a crime and that no one loves them and they are not cool enough without a partner and blah blah blah it’s going to be hard for the person to see other people in love on that day.

So you need to change your view on being single. Don’t see it as a bad thing but instead see it as a good thing. Write out the things you are grateful for while being single, the things you have been able to accomplish as a single person.

Check out this helpful post that will assist you in changing your mindset about being single.

Why being single is better than being in the wrong relationship

2. Love your singleness

Once you’ve changed your mindset, you will begin to see being single as something you are okay with and stop wanting to move from one relationship to another. Love your singleness, take this time to grow as a person, to build and invest in yourself, to love and better yourself, and constantly improve on yourself so you can attract the type of person you want.

Here’s a post that will help you love your singleness

How to enjoy being single

A happy woman in a sunflower garden with bubbles

3. Be happy with yourself and love yourself

Don’t be that person that is constantly looking for happiness in a man. The person could make you happy but they shouldn’t be the only reason why you are happy. Find your happiness within, do what you love and whatever makes you happy.

How to love yourself completely

4. Don’t dwell on your loneliness or feel sorry for yourself

Don’t throw a pity party for yourself. Don’t sit and sulk about how you are always lonely or feel sorry for yourself that you are not good enough and no one loves you or how you don’t have a partner to spoil you this Valentine while others are being cozy with their partner. Don’t dwell on that, it will only ruin your mood further. Instead, find something to do or be grateful for or you can also do for yourself what you will want a partner to do for you.

6 ways to treat and pamper yourself this Valentine

5. Avoid love triggers

If you know your heart cannot take seeing all the relationship goals and couples that day by all means avoid them. Don’t go checking out the hashtag trending on love and Valentine’s day on your social media. Avoid your social media or movies about love and romance. Don’t add salt to your injury. Don’t hurt yourself by going to view what that person’s boo got for his bae.

6. Spend time with those you love

A romantic partner is not the only person you can show love to or that can show you love on that day. Spend time with your family and friends. Spend time with people in your community or church and do something for each other. You can feel and spread love to others, you don’t have to be involved with them romantically.

Two girlfriends sitting down with a bottle of drink in their hands

7. Be patient

Don’t rush things. Good things take time. Keep on working on yourself and being the best version of yourself. Someone is going to love you like you want one day. Someone will treat you like a queen and be your dream. You just have to be patient and trust the process. Good things come to those who wait and work so sure you’ll get everything you want if you believe you can have it and take the right steps towards getting it.

Thanks for reading, I hope you enjoyed the post. Let me know the ways you’ve coped with feeling lonely on Valentine’s day and the things you did. For me, I didn’t pay attention to Valentine’s day in previous years or felt lonely about being single on Valentine’s day but this year is quite different since I’ve been exposed to a lot of Valentine’s day content so I just wrote this post as a subtle reminder for myself and others to not feel overwhelmed by Valentine’s day or sad that there’s no one to spend it with.

If you enjoyed this post don’t forget to like, follow and share it with someone it will be of great help too. Sharing is caring and it will help the person get over feeling sad on that day. Don’t forget to share how you’ve been able to cope and overcome feeling lonely on Valentine’s day. Have a great day 🤗

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  1. Wowwww nice points and agreed totally dear👏🏻❤️👍🏻

  2. A lovely post, I used to dread Valentine’s Day, I wish it wasn’t such a big thing. Now I’m married we don’t even bother with it.

    1. It seems most people in relationships don’t bother about it but single people do.

  3. Being in a relationship does not change the quality of life, it can add value but it doesn’t change the person that we are and how we feel about ourselves.
    Being single or in a relationship are also different phases of life and each have their own advantages, the key is to enjoy each one you are in:)

    1. Yes, it’s really important that we enjoy whichever one we fall under. 💯

  4. Honestly, now that I’m in a relationship we don’t even give the day a thought. This year I think we’re just getting a takeaway. I used to dread the day when I was single though, and this is great advice.

  5. These are great tips. All I would add is that Valentine’s day should be treated as a celebration of love, so you could technically celebrate it with anyone who you are on good terms with, not just a partner.

    1. Yes. Thanks for the addition.

  6. Very valid points. I vibe number 4 well oo.
    I work to a kid being depressed thinking about love 😄

  7. What a lovely post. I used to detest Valentine’s Day when I was single, it felt like such a sicky day. But I didn’t really like myself and didn’t really know who I was.
    Great post, very thought provoking!


    1. It’s great that you’ve gotten past that now. Thanks for reading. 🤗

  8. Lovely post 💕 These are great tips. Thanks for sharing https://uncuaderno4cero.wordpress.com/

  9. Thanks for these helpful tips

  10. This was such a lovely post idea for this time of year, especially with many people not able to be with their loved ones 🙂 thank you for sharing these top tips x

  11. I love this post, you’ve included so many great tips! I think learning to be the love of your own life is so important and makes you realise, you don’t need to be in a relationship to be happy xx

    1. Yes. I agree with you on that.

  12. I completely agree, I feel like social media Vtines advertising has ramped up this year, every email I get mentions it but it’s not just about being ‘in love’ with a partner

    1. Yes, it’s a lot more than that. 💯

  13. I love that you changed the narrative on Valentine’s Day, it’s so easy for people to get sad and feel lonely, but changing how you think about it can make all the difference.

    1. Yes, it depends on how we see it.

  14. This was a great read! I always used to get upset about it because I was single, but truly it should be a day to love yourself even more! Thanks for sharing this, it was a great reminder x

    1. It’s good that you’ve realized it now. Thanks for reading. 🤗

  15. Good post and tips. You can always celebrate V Day by yourself. No need to fuss about romance.

  16. Great tips. I’ve been single for a while but I do tend to feel it a bit around Valentine’s.

    1. Yeah it happens that way sometimes. How will you be spending it this time?

  17. Not that I don’t love my boyfriend, but my single years (especially when I was at Uni) were some of the happiest years of my life! I loved myself in a way I hadn’t before and I was truly looking after myself! Love these tips!

    Katie | katieemmabeauty.com

    1. That’s great. Thanks for reading 🤗

  18. Valentine’s is that time of year when everyone and their aunt is pouring out happy ways to spend the day with your significant other. I do not mind the flooding, but I do appreciate writing like this that acknowledges people like me who will be celebrating love in general with ourselves. 🙂

    1. Ha, we’re a lot that will be spending it with ourselves then. 😄

  19. These are some great tips. Spending time with those that you love is such a great way of spending valentine’s day. Spending the day with friends is a great way of doing that.

    1. Yes it is. Thanks for reading 🤗

  20. Spending time with loved ones is it for me

  21. Practicing self-love is such an empowering thought that always keeps you in high spirits. Spending time with your loved ones is another great idea.

    1. Yes they are. Thanks for leaving a comment. ❤️

  22. I hope those that might feel lonely this V Day will use it as a day to celebrate themselves and give themselves a lot of self love and self care! I’m in a relationship but I’m still going to be practicing self love this weekend!

  23. Everything you’ve listed here is true! Practicing self love is first and foremost important before diving in to a relationship.

    1. Yes it’s really important. 🤗

  24. These are all great tips!! Self-love is the most important thing!

  25. I love the positivity in this post! You’ve made some very good points about loving yourself. Thanks for sharing.

  26. Great post! Gotta say, I used to think about Valentine’s Day WAY more as a single person than now as a married one. Funny how that works! Thank you for sharing.

    1. Yeah, it’s really funny how it changes. Thanks for reading.

  27. I never feel lonely and enjoy my own company more than anyone else’s. But I know a lot of people do feel this way so thank you for writing this. Great post! Siobhan ♡ | Vegan Babe Life

    1. It’s good that you enjoy your company. Thanks for reading. 🤗

  28. Having the right mindset is everything. If we change it, we will see things differently. Great tips! Thank you for sharing!

    1. Yeah the right mindset is absolutely necessary. Thanks for reading 🤗

    1. You’re welcome 😊
      I’m glad I did 🤗

  29. Fantastic post! I agree with all points. I especially agree that it is important to love yourself and appreciate yourself for who you are

    1. Yes, they are all important. 💯

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