Hey loves, in as much as no one is perfect and we all make mistakes, these are things you should stop doing in your 20s and mistakes to stop making now to avoid lifelong regrets.
15 Biggest Mistakes To Avoid In Life To Avoid Regrets
1. Procrastinating
Avoid procrastinating at all cost. If you have something to do, do it. Don’t put till tomorrow what can be done today. I know you won’t always feel like doing anything sometimes and those days feel free to rest, take a break and come back stronger but stop telling yourself you’ll do it later when you know you don’t want to do it at all even if it needs to be done. No matter how little it may be just do the tasks at hand and when you start you most likely will continue. Procrastination kills your productivity, stop.
2. Making too much excuses
It’s very easy to blame your misfortune on others and give many excuses on why something isn’t working out for you but look within yourself and ask yourself if you are really doing what you should be doing to get the results you desire. Stop making excuses for yourself, yes others might be to blame but don’t dwell on that. Do what needs to be done without giving excuses on why it can’t be done.
3. Pleasing people
Don’t hurt yourself at the expense of others, justify don’t. Stop doing things others want you to do even if you don’t want to do them. Don’t live you life on someone’s terms. Do what you want, be what you want, they will adjust. It most definitely isn’t an easy thing to do neither is anything I’ve mentioned but you need to discipline yourself to stop doing them.
4. Comparing yourself to someone else
Do not compare yourself to anybody else but you. Do not compete with anyone else. Everyone has different life paths, yours is different from the person beside you so why do you think things will go the same for you? Do not compare your story with another person’s highlight. People on social media show you what they want to show you even though more people are being vulnerable now and sharing their backstory. Instead of comparing yourself to someone better still see the person as an inspiration, let it motivate you instead of weighing you down. Comparing yourself to someone will only destroy you so don’t move that way.
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5. Negative influences
If you still have bad friends that all they do is get you in trouble, talk you down and talk you out of your dreams now is the time to find better. When you are surrounded by negative people you will most likely become one yourself. Avoid negativity, go where there is no negative vibes, surround yourself with positivity. Be around people that think positively and have positive patterns, people that will help you become a better version of yourself.
6. Spending recklessly
The urge to lavish your money on anything and everything is an act that must be curbed. Do not spend recklessly. Do not buy things just to impress someone. If it is of no use to you avoid buying it and please do not live above your means. Do not fall into debts and live the rest of your life trying to pay them off. Learn how to make money, save it and multiply it. Your future will thank you.
7. Settling for less
Do not settle. Do not settle for less than you deserve or desire. Do not settle for the wrong friendships or relationships thinking you won’t find better. Better people exist, better opportunities exist. Do not settle for breadcrumbs when you can have the full cookie. Do not undervalue yourself.
8. Staying in toxic relationships
Avoid this because it will only ruin you. There’s a way being with a toxic person lowers your self esteem and promotes self doubt and steals your self love. Do not be in situations that you know are toxic to you no matter the benefits you may be getting from it and this is in regards to friendships as well not just relationships.
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9. Rushing into commitments
Do not start something because everyone else is starting or doing it. Just because everyone else is getting married at a certain age does not mean you need to be married by then or before then. Do not rush into commitments you cannot keep. Marriage is a forever thing at least that’s what I think it is. Know the person you want to be committed to, understand this person, know if it is what you truly want. Do not rush into commitments that will damage you in the long run. Before you get committed to someone or something learn about them. Do not make the mistake of getting married to your biggest mistake. Take your time.
10. Do not live in the past
Be present. Live in the moment. Do not worry about your past and obsess over your future. Live. The past is the past for a reason. Move forward. You can never go back to the past except if a time machine gets invented someday so don’t bother much about what was and what could have been and focus on what is and what will be.
11. Pretending to be someone you’re not
Why pretend to be a copy of someone when you can be an original version of yourself? Don’t try to be like someone or impress someone. Do not waste your life trying to be like someone or talk like them or do the things they do, it might not even work for you. Thrive in your authenticity.
12. Not planning for your future
In as much as it’s good to take each day as it comes do not make the mistake of not thinking ahead and planning for your future. Avoid this mistake at all cost. Plan ahead, where do you want to be in the next ten years? What do you see yourself doing? Reflect on it.
13. Not stepping out of your comfort zone
Growth never truly happens within your comfort zone, you have to stretch yourself and take yourself out of the tiny box you are in into the bigger box you want to get into. Take risks, nothing is really certain anyway, go for that thing you wouldn’t ordinary do or you are scared to do. Step out of your comfort zone.
14. Neglecting your health
Pay attention to your body. Eat healthy, exercise, rest, give your body the things it needs to thrive. Do not eat just anything and everything. Take your fruits and vegetables. You want to build your body now so that it doesn’t go frail quickly. Pay attention to what goes into your body. Do not neglect your health so you will enjoy it.
15. Do not give up
Do not give up on your dreams. Do not give up on your life, do not give up on the things that matters to you. Keep pushing, keep moving. It’s not over until you win. Don’t quit, don’t stop by the way. Keep going for what you want so you won’t regret giving up or not going for it in later years.
Thanks for reading. I hope you found this tips helpful and you don’t make any of these mistakes. Which mistake are you currently struggling with and which other mistakes do you think must be avoided? I’ll love to hear from you so comment below.
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Have a wonderful year, I pray you don’t make any of these mistakes and if you do you learn from the experience and rise above it.
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Great post Nianni! xo
Thanks Sue